ch. 1. Getting started -- ch. 2. How you play the game -- 1. Pretending it isn't a game -- 2. Playing the game safely and within bounds -- 3. Working hard -- 4. Doing the work of others -- 5. Working without a break -- 6. Being naive -- 7. Pinching company pennies -- 8. Waiting to be given what you want -- 9. Avoiding office politics -- 10. Being the conscience -- 11. Protecting jerks -- 12. Holding your tongue -- 13. Failing to capitalize on relationships -- 14. Not understanding the needs of your constituents --

ch. 3. How you act -- 15. Polling before making a decision -- 16. Needing to be liked -- 17. Not needing to be liked -- 18. Not asking questions for fear of sounding stupid -- 19. Acting like a man -- 20. Telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth (so help you God) -- 21. Sharing too much personal information -- 22. Being overly concerned with offending others -- 23. Denying the importance of money -- 24. Flirting -- 25. Acquiescing to bullies -- 26. Decorating your office like your living room -- 27. Feeding others -- 28. Offering a limp handshake -- 29. Being financially insecure -- 30. Helping -- ch. 4. How you think -- 31. Making miracles -- 32. Taking full responsibility -- 33. Obediently following instructions -- 34. Viewing men in authority as father figures -- 35. Limiting your possibilities -- 36. Ignoring the quid pro quo -- 37. Skipping meetings -- 38. Putting work ahead of your personal life -- 39. Letting people waste your time -- 40. Prematurely abandoning your career goals -- 41. Ignoring the importance of network relationships -- 42. Refusing perks -- 43. Making up negative stories -- 44. Striving for perfection --

ch. 5. How you brand and market yourself -- 45. Failing to define your brand -- 46. Minimizing your work or position -- 47. Using only your nickname or first name -- 48. Waiting to be noticed -- 49. Refusing high-profile assignments -- 50. Being modest -- 51. Staying in your safety zone -- 52. Giving away your ideas -- 53. Working in stereotypical roles or departments -- 54. Ignoring feedback -- 55. Being invisible -- ch. 6. How you sound -- 56. Couching statements as questions -- 57. Using preambles -- 58. Explaining -- 59. Asking permission -- 60. Apologizing -- 61. Using minimizing words -- 62. Using qualifiers -- 63. Not answering the question -- 64. Talking too fast -- 65. The inability to speak the language of your business -- 66. Using nonwords -- 67. Using touch-feely language -- 68. The sandwich -- 69. Speaking softly -- 70. Speaking at a higher-than-natural pitch -- 71. Tailing voice mails -- 72. Failing to pause or reflect before responding --

ch. 7. How you look

73. Smiling inappropriately

74. Taking up too little space

75. Using gestures inconsistent with your message

76. Being over- or underanimated

77. Tilting your head

78. Wearing inappropriate makeup

79. Wearing the wrong hairstyle

80. Dressing inappropriately

81. Sitting on your foot

82. Grooming in public

83. Sitting in meetings with your hands under the table

84. Wearing your reading glasses around your neck

85. Accessorizing too much

86. Failing to maintain eye contact

ch. 8. How you respond

87. Internalizing messages

88. Believing others know more than you

89. Taking notes, getting coffee, and making copies

90. Tolerating inappropriate behavior

91. Exhibiting too much patience

92. Accepting dead-end assignments

93. Putting the needs of others before your own

94. Denying your power

95. Allowing yourself to be the scapegoat

96. Accepting the fait accompli

97. Permitting others' mistakes to inconvenience you

98. Being the last to speak

99. Playing the gender card

100. Tolerating sexual harassment

101. Crying

Appendix. Personal development planning and resources.